Saturday, October 4, 2008


Got the news like a heavy downpour on a Saturday morning. A friend sent a message too hard to read. Too painful to digest. Too much for a morning starter.

One of our friends has Stage 4 Lymphoma. The doctors will no longer operate. She has been in the ICU for a week now.


I asked if I can announce it to our other friends but she didn't know what to say. I told her we should because they all have the right to know. We all love her, maybe not equally, but we hold her dearly in our hearts.

I called another friend. She just got the news too. She was shaken like me, so shocked we didn't know how to handle what hit us today.

We shared our regrets of not seeing our friend before she fell ill.

Life is indeed short. Regrets make it shorter. But prayers make us stronger.


Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend... but it sounds like she has people surrounding her that care very deeply, and that makes a world of difference.

Small Footprints said...

It's so hard for all of you ... I'm so sorry!!

While you may feel regret at not seeing her before she fell ill, you can take comfort in knowing that your friend has all of you to help and support her through this most difficult part of her life. Sometimes the most important thing we can do for a person is hold their hand.

Your story reminds us all to tell the people in our lives that we care about them ... often.

Thank you for sharing such a personal, difficult time in your life!

Small Footprints

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Jennifer Jilks said...

What a lovely blog! You can belie the myth that all single moms are...[insert myth/stereotype here]

I am glad that my three are grown. I had a great job, bright kids, yet faced much negativity.

What upsets me most is that during my middle age years I cannot share these things with my mom. She supported me every step of the way.

I feel for you with the pre-grief you must bear. I have buried both mom and dad within 9 mos. It is not easy. Make sure you write about what you feel regarding your friends. There is much healing in this act!